- Trust our own judgment and intuition. Make decisions consciously and reflect on our motives first. Then take responsibility for our successes as well as our mistakes.
- Remain hopeful and optimistic. Visualize our goals rather than worrying about what might happen. Have a positive long term outlook while living one day at a time.
- Accept that change is a part of life. Many things are beyond our control but we can change how we interpret and react to them.
- Make connections with positive groups of people. Focus on our similarities with others rather than our differences. Encourage people to explore possibilities and value their talents and opinions.
- Look after your health and acknowledge your need for relaxation and peace. Look for opportunities for self-discovery and education.
Personal resilience is our ability to recover from setbacks, embrace change, and to soften the impact of hardships. A resilient person can handle difficult experiences and bounce back afterward. Resilience is a natural human state that we have acquired over millions of years of evolution, but there are ways to increase this quality so we are better able to thrive in our lives.
Resilient people develop a healthy self esteem through positive thinking, uncovering and discarding negative thought processes, and developing healthy problem solving skills. They strive to be involved in events rather than feel isolated and powerless. They view stressful changes as learning opportunities.
In our society we are increasingly feeling isolated as we are exposed to advertising messages that tell us we aren’t worthy unless we wear the latest fashionable clothes, drive a new car, belong to the right social groups, obtain the approval of others, etc. While having material goods can improve our quality of life, the belief that our self esteem depends on having all this ‘stuff’ undermines our ability to adjust to difficult circumstances.
It is well known in the field of psychology that people are more likely to change their behavior when they see a positive reason for doing so.
We can’t get somewhere until we can first envision where it is we want to go. Great leaders in history were great leaders because they had a positive vision and were able to communicate that effectively. Where do you want your life to go? The lives of our children? Planet?